Why Can't I See Spirits?

On each October ghost tour I lead, a woman laments, why can’t I see spirits? I wish I could.

Like love, spirits can’t be touched or proven, but they’re heady and real. Love is a verb, so if you walk the path of spirits, you’ll feel, sense, or hear them. Try to make ghosts as real as possible. To connect with someone who has passed on, believe that you can do it. Remember, it’s not a two-way bit of communication. They can’t hear you. Somehow they sense you, but not with words that originate from you.

Spirits talk to us, so we need to be aware and listen, like we do for the sound of the birds that herald spring. Keep your antennae up. Their voice or presence can come through to you when you don’t expect it.

A smell can trigger that the door is open and you need to walk through. To look at your grandmother’s photograph can mean you hear her spirit advice, so analyze it and figure out if it’s an old message, or quite possibly, a new one. If you miss a passed-on friend and the nature walks that you took, then walk in the woods and listen. Pop open your senses and your friend’s voice might come, if not that day, then another one.

Oh life is hard, and so is the connection with someone whose body has gone. Don’t give up. Don’t spend so much time with regret and lament. Move forward with what you have.